And in some dark corner of historic family law, most states think the kids belong primarily with the mom. When my then-wife asked for a divorce my kids were 7 – 9.
My relationship with them is 100% up to me and my efforts to stay connected. I was the one who got breakfast started every morning, woke everyone up, including my then-wife, and ushered everyone along the path to getting ready, fed, and off to school.